Take our bodies for example.... unless you were blessed with amazing genes (or lots of money for a nanny and personal trainer to kick your post-partum behind into shape), your body underwent some serious changes. I was one of those who was oh-so-hopeful that my body would just bounce back. Not so. Granted, I could have been more active during my pregnancy, but hey, hind sight is 20/20, right? Now, I'm squishy in all the wrong places and I'm 99% sure my hips are not where they used to be. People don't tell you how hard losing pregnancy weight is either. It's like it wasn't enough to go through the discomfort of pregnancy and delivery, but now I have to work twice as hard to get rid of all this weight?! What a cruel, cruel joke. Someday, I really will lose all this weight, hopefully in the upcoming months.
Another thing I've noticed is how your interactions with others change. Once upon a time I would have been embarrassed to talk about pooping, vomit, discharge, and a whole host of topics. Not anymore. I've found that once you're a parent, almost anything goes. I'v compared poop colors, discussed postpartum bleeding and discharge, skin rashes, episiotomies, vaginal tearing, you name it, and all without skipping a beat. Pretty sure I was not too fond of those topics pre-baby. I also find myself making friends with other moms and couples versus single friends. I am in a different stage in my life, one that single friends do not seem to understand. It's rough when you are friends with single (single meaning not married, by the way) people and they don't get why your child tags along, or the pains of finding a babysitter, or even the concept of putting someone other than themselves first. My daughter ALWAYS comes first, no matter what.
That brings me to my next point (and the real reason for this post)... I cannot stand it when friends get annoyed that my daughter tags along. I'm sorry that having a two year old at dinner isn't your idea of a good time, but you know what? She's my world. Is it sometimes annoying and frustrating to constantly have to interrupt conversation to make sure she's not stabbing herself with a fork? Sure. But you know what? I'd rather have her with me than feel guilty for leaving her behind. I just find it rude that someone would say to me how annoying it is to constantly be interrupted by my daughter. It makes me want to slap someone.
Perhaps that is why I have (unconsciously) begun to distance myself from my single friends. There are so many ways Alexis has changed my life, and most of them are good. Sure there are time when I think I must have been insane to want a child... but, I have it pretty easy. She's smart, very talkative, active (a double- edged sword), happy and charming, what's not to like? I sometimes think about how my life would be different without her... but, I wouldn't trade a second with her for my previous life. If someone doesn't want to understand what a blessing she is, I guess they have no business being a part of my life! I certainly wouldn't want to spoil someone's evening with a charming little girl.... why waste her time on someone like that? She's too good for that! :)
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